Do we all find ourselves in a perpetual state of anticipation, fearing that any moment of happiness will be disrupted? Or is it just me?Is it only our traumas, that get together and stop us from being present and joyful? Or is it our own mind?

I know these are the questions not letting us sleep at night, keeping us unmindful and restraining us from being truly happy.

For many of us, our life experiences have lacked the presence of grace, kindness, and unconditional love. Consequently, we may struggle to comprehend what it truly feels like. In our attempt to make sense of it, we sometimes embrace the notion that “tough love” molds us into remarkable individuals. We attribute our strength and resilience to our own inherent qualities, independent of the love we may have missed out on.

It’s why, we find ourselves nurturing our children or people we care about, with the conviction that their triumphs in the realm of adulthood rest solely upon their capacity for unwavering fortitude.

But resilience is constantly pushing through struggle. It is a good trait to have but to have built it up, you have to CONSTANTLY hit walls.

Yes, we become resilient, but do we know how to be HAPPY when we learn joy is on the opposite of struggle first?

Are we constantly waiting on the other shoe to drop so we forebode joy?

It’s time! Grant yourself the gift of grace, for you have been through more than you realise. Extend copious amounts of grace to others, for they are the victim of traumas they don’t even know are traumas.

Go out there.
Meet the girl you were longing to speak to.
Hold his hand today, it won’t hurt.
Make friends
LIVE.

Our physical being has grown accustomed to the existing state of affairs, and thus, the uncharted territory or novel circumstances that lie before you may evoke trepidation. Understand that this instinctive reaction, stemming from the intricate workings of your body’s nervous system, is not a deliberate act of self-sabotage. Rather, it is an innate mechanism aimed at safeguarding the delicate sanctuary of your being.

And, remember, what is normal for you, might not be healthy. Life can be better. You can heal.

Healing is not love.
Healing results in love. Relationships are not the fallback options of our traumatised soul.

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